Things to Think About And Do Before Getting Married

Recently an old friend asked me what were some things she should think about and do before getting married.  She thinks her long-term boyfriend is preparing to ask THE question. Her biggest fear is not a lack of trust or love – it is a lack of positive relationship role models in her life. She comes from a family that has a history of divorces, settling, adulterous relationships and just plain unhappy couples.

While I do not consider myself a “veteran” wife, after (almost) nine years of marriage, I can honestly say that communication (ie – listening AND saying what you mean in a clear way), sacrifices on both parts, and a clear understanding on finances makes a world of a difference.

Yes, I recall the advice to never go to bed angry (has anyone successfully done this?) or have date nights monthly when we were celebrating our reception and my bridal shower, but as we got seriously serious it would have been great to have someone share things to think about before even saying “I will” when the man of your dreams gets down on one knee.

Things To Think About Before Marriage

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Goal Setting Success: Keep Them Visible PLUS a #GIVEAWAY

Surprisingly few people regularly make lists of their goals and even fewer put their lists where they can see them. Part of goal setting success is creating visuals that will keep your goals front-and-center on a regular basis and motivate you to remain focused and actively working towards your success.

A lot of money was once paid for the following famous goal setting advice given to a rich businessman:

Each night make a list of 6 things you need to do tomorrow and list the 6 tasks in order of priority. When tomorrow arrives, start on the first task and complete it. Then move on to the second task. If you don’t finish all your tasks add the unfinished ones to your list for the next day.

Goals could be listed for each day, each week, each month, each year and for life. You could even make lists for each project you are working on. The women that participate in our annual goals challenge are focused on specific goals and meet monthly to share their successes, areas of opportunity and brainstorm ideas to help them achieve their personal and professional goals.

One resource they utilize is a goals journal that helps them to formulate their SMART Goals and list out measurable action steps for each month of the year. It’s something that can be easily slipped into their purse or planner and referenced throughout their day.

Goal Planning Success: Keep your goals visible

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Cheesy Broccoli and Rice Casserole Recipe

Honestly, I stumbled across making this cheesy broccoli and rice casserole by accident a few years ago.

We were having a potluck at work and I had to bring something other than soda or iced tea.

I was trying to make a broccoli and cheese casserole and misread the instructions. No idea how that happened, but eh, it worked and was a hit.

It’s become one of my family’s favorites and I’ve made adjustments to it as I got more comfortable in the kitchen. This has definitely become one of my favorite quick and easy recipes to create.

Cheesy Broccoli and Rice Casserole - Quick and Easy Recipe


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Preparing A #SaveTheUndies Care Pack #sponsored

Thank you to U by Kotex for sponsoring today’s post and inspiring me to become an #UnderWarrior and stay confident!

Hi there, Divas! Today’s post is a little personal but it’s one that we can all relate to – especially if we have pre-teen and teen divas in our life.

My oldest niece and I share a very special bond. Before my little Diva came along, she was the only girl among the 6 grandchildren at the time and to say she got a tad bit spoiled is an understatement. I’m thankful for the bond that we share and we spend a lot of time together.

I wasn’t ready for a recent weekend getaway when her first menstrual cycle decided to join us. I totally was not ready. I mean, I was just changing her diapers, right? I was mentally preparing myself for middle school in the fall and now THIS?!? And, of course, we were out and about wearing matching white capris. Have mercy!


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14 Strategies For Overcoming Procrastination

Is overcoming procrastination a goal of yours? Perhaps I should ask, should overcoming procrastination be a goal of yours? Not sure? Let’s see … Does this sound familiar? You have plans and ideas for getting some writing done on the report due tomorrow. You sit down at your desk but notice there are a few piles of paper surrounding your desk. So you take a few minutes to go through them. Now, you’re ready to write. Oh, wait –you need to put dishes in the dishwasher. That won’t take long. While you’re in the kitchen you might as well grab a snack. Now you can begin writing. Maybe you’ll just check your email and see what’s going on with Facebook. Before you know it the entire day has gone. Sound familiar, at all?

Mark Twain captured the essence of procrastination with his famous quote: “Never put off until tomorrow… what you can do the day after tomorrow.” There are a lot of people who live by this adage almost religiously. And when we see that the results of this are less than what we like, we decide to stop procrastinating, beginning tomorrow.

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Mother’s Day Gifts: Do It Yourself Ideas For A Pampering Basket

I love giving gifts.  With Mother’s Day right around the corner, I have been reflecting on what to do for my mother and aunts – a group of women who seem to have EVERYTHING. The best thing about them is that they are truly appreciative of anything given to them from the heart. This year I have decided to give each of them pampering baskets with items made by myself and my little ones so they can feel included.

Thankfully, I have a group of awesome blogger friends and a great Pinterest feed that have shared some great (and easy!) DIY projects that I can include in their baskets.

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Pose ‘N Post Symposium hosted by Chrisette Michele

Divas With A Purpose was on assignment this weekend at the Pose’ n Post Symposium, hosted by the one and only, Chrisette Michele! It was an opportunity offered to only a handful of bloggers and media personnel and we were chosen. E’toshia McFarland of Faces by Etosh and myself, Sherika V. Washington of Worthy Words Writing Services were on hand to represent Divas With A Purpose.

Pose N Post Symposium hosted by Chrisette Michele | Columbia, SC

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