Lack of self-confidence can be defined as a lack of belief in one’s own abilities and self-worth. It can be caused by a person’s lack of success, which leads to an overall feeling that they are not good enough.
Do you lack self-confidence? Is it impacting your ability to act on your dreams? Lack of confidence is a major source of resistance for many people. You don’t feel like you can follow through on your goals. You feel like you don’t have the ability, or the talent, or the mysterious x-factor that some people seem to have.
Some people are so lacking in self-confidence that they don’t believe they have what it takes to make their dreams come true, even after they’re already doing it. They feel like they’re a fraud and that other people will see through the charade at any moment. This phenomenon is called imposter syndrome.
How do you get over either or both of these conditions? There are many ways to overcome the lack of confidence and become confident. They include:
- Positive thinking:
- Focusing on your strengths:
- Identifying your weaknesses and working to improve them:
- Reflecting on past successes
Sometimes, we need to show up confidently before we have a chance to focus on any of those things. How? To borrow an old phrase, you fake it till you make it (and even afterwards until you develop your self-confidence). That is, you’re going to pretend.
You’re going to pretend you are already the person you want to become. Make a list of the qualities that you’re trying to develop in yourself – character, poise, math skills, a talent for the clarinet, or anything else that you’re aiming for or need to reach your dreams – and pretend you already have them.
Instead of someone who’s trying to master advanced math skills, you’re going to pretend that you’ve already done it, that you’re already someone who’s good at math. You’re going to imagine yourself as having every quality on the list, and proceed to act as if you do. This includes self-confidence.
Something magical will happen when you do this well. You’ll start to develop these qualities. You’ll start getting better at math, because you believe you’re already good at math. Your skill playing the clarinet will rapidly increase. Your charm will skyrocket. All of this because you believe you have these qualities, so your brain develops them.
After you’ve done this for a while, you’ll develop more confidence in yourself. The act will gradually transition into real life; you’ll no longer pretend you have these skills, because you actually will have them. Even if you have imposter syndrome for a bit, it will gradually fade away. You’ll become the person you want to be.
If you’re dealing with a lack of self-confidence, it’s time for a game of pretend. Fake it till you make it will help you overcome your lack of confidence and act on your dreams.
The Dangers & Consequences of Lacking Self-Confidence
One of the most damaging things that we can do to ourselves is feel bad about who we are.
If you don’t believe in yourself, then no one else will either.
We need to be our own cheerleaders, and remind ourselves of all the good things that make us worthy of love and success.
The lack of self-confidence can be dangerous, because it can lead to mental health problems like depression. It can also lead to low self-esteem, which can have a negative impact on your relationships with others, as well as your career path.
It’s important for people struggling with these issues to seek support from therapists or other professionals so they can get back on track.
Overcoming Lack of Self-Confidence
When we are feeling low, it is difficult to see the bright side of things. We cannot find anything in our surroundings that can motivate us and make us feel better.
The lack of self-confidence is a problem that many people face at some point in their lives. It might happen when we are going through a rough patch, or when we are not feeling well or meeting our expectations. It might be because of the lack of support from other people around us, or because we have been told that certain things are impossible for us to do.
How To Increase Your Self-Esteem & Overcome The Fear Of Failure
It is not easy to overcome the fear of failure. It is a feeling that can be paralyzing and will stop you from doing what you want to do. But this does not have to be the case. Here are four steps that can help you overcome the fear of failure:
1) Start with your mind: It is important to start with your mind, because it shapes how you feel about yourself and what you are capable of achieving in life. It is important not to let negative thoughts control your mind, but instead to focus on positive thoughts and affirmations that can help build up your self-esteem.
2) Build a support system: A support system is essential in helping you overcome any obstacle or challenge in life. This includes people who are supportive, understanding, and will be there to help you through difficult times. It also includes people who are there for you when you succeed.
3) Plan your action/planning: One of the most important things successful people do is plan their actions and plan to ensure they achieve their goal. Without planning, it can be easier to give up or become overwhelmed with the challenge at hand.
4) Self-motivation: If we want to change our lives, we must first change ourselves. We need to be self-motivated and know what motivates us to achieve success.
Michelle D. Garrett is the founder of Divas With A Purpose.
She focuses on sharing resources for being purposely productive; setting personal and professional goals and achieving them through daily action; and successfully running a business while focusing on your mental health. Michelle is a full-time entrepreneur who specializes in teaching female entrepreneurs how to show up consistently in their business – online and off.