How do you express yourself with confidence?
Are you shy? Do you tend to be passive when you enter a room and hope that all eyes are not on you? Do you struggle to communicate your opinions, thoughts, and needs clearly and confidently? It’s not uncommon.
Many are surprised when I let them know that I am actually that person. I am a natural introvert that lives with chronic anxiety but have worked to exude way more confidence than I typically am feeling when in public settings.
In fact, most people struggle to communicate and express themselves with confidence. It is a skill that can be learned and with some tips and a bit of practice, you can become more at ease when communicating with others.
5 Steps to Building Your Confidence
One of the most common problems people face is feeling insecure about themselves. You might find that you feel inferior to others, or just worry about how you come off to other people. There are many reasons for this, but one of the most common causes is not feeling confident in yourself or your abilities.
Here are five steps to incorporate in your daily routine to build your confidence.
- Focus on the positive aspects of yourself.
- Practice self-acceptance.
- Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings, but don’t dwell too much on them.
- Make sure you get enough sleep and exercise, eat healthy food, and spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Surround yourself with people who are supportive of you and your goals for the future
How to find yourself and express yourself in a healthy way
You are who you choose to be.
Being yourself can be hard, but it’s necessary to live a healthy life. Sometimes it may feel like the things you like are too silly or too out there for people to accept. But if you don’t express yourself, these feelings will continue to build up and make you feel worse.
It’s important to know that you can be who you want and need to be without losing your identity or changing who you are on the inside. There is no one way of being, and there is no wrong way of being either. You can find yourself by exploring all the possibilities that exist within you – both mental and physical.
The Importance of Self-Confidence
Being confident is important for your personal and professional life. Self-confidence can lead to success, while lack of confidence can lead to failure. You can boost your confidence by adopting a positive self-talk attitude and practicing positivity in your daily interactions.
1. Listen to Others and Learn from Their Mistakes and Successes
Listening is important for a few different reasons. When you spend time listening to others, you’ll learn some key do’s and don’ts for communicating. In a conversation with multiple people, listen to what others are saying and how the group responds to them.
You may learn that the best and most confident conversationalists ask more questions and spend more time listening than talking. This brings us to the next benefit of listening, which is that when you listen to others you’re able to respond with more relevant and insightful comments. And people tend to be more comfortable with people they know are listening to them.
2. Breathe and Think before You Speak
Before you speak, think about what you’re going to say. Make sure that you express yourself with clarity and that you don’t say anything that you’ll want to take back. It’s the old “think before you speak” suggestion, only in this case it’s also important that you breathe too so that you’re able to think with a calm and clear head.
3. Your Words Matter. You Have Value to Share
Remember that you have important information and insight to share. If you don’t share it, you may be depriving others of your knowledge, opinion, and information. You can help people, and your words and story have value. Share with others.
4. Practice Sharing and Start Small
Finally, as mentioned earlier practice really does help. Start expressing yourself in smaller situations. Maybe share an opinion when you’re talking with a friend or trusted family member. As you gain confidence sharing your opinion with people that you trust, you can try the experiment with co-workers, peers, and people that you meet in the outside world.
As you listen and learn, you’ll pick up that asking questions and being engaged in the conversation you’re having takes away the stress and anxiety. Instead of feeling like you’re in the spotlight, you’re engaged in a discussion that offers value to everyone involved. It’s much easier to relax in those situations. The ability to express yourself with confidence comes over time. Learn, watch, breathe and enjoy communicating more confidently every day.
Michelle D. Garrett is the founder of Divas With A Purpose.
She focuses on sharing resources for being purposely productive; setting personal and professional goals and achieving them through daily action; and successfully running a business while focusing on your mental health. Michelle is a full-time entrepreneur who specializes in teaching female entrepreneurs how to show up consistently in their business – online and off.