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Steps To Self-Confidence

I am one awesome Diva…and so are you!

To some that might come across as very self-centered sounding.

I’m okay with that.

There was a time in my life that I could barely look at myself in the mirror, let alone recognize and celebrate the greatness I had within me.

So I’m okay with knowing and believing that I am one great driven, inspiring, victorious and called to action Diva – whether others embrace it or not.

Building confidence is a necessary exercise for many of us. If self-confidence does not come naturally, building it up takes deliberate, conscious effort.

These are some of the steps I’ve taken throughout my journey of fully embracing and loving me. I’ve shared these before, but they bare sharing again.

Steps to Self-Confidence


Write them down. Make a list of your goals, long and short term, and then below each goal write the steps it will take to get there.

It’s no secret that I love S.M.A.R.T. goals. Goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and time-based. The accountability factor that comes with sharing your goals with a respected and trusted group of individuals was the inspiration for The Divatude Challenge (a year-long focus and circle of support).

Click here for a FREE Printable to Help Formulate Your S.M.A.R.T. Goals


Whether it’s relationships, business ventures, or self-improvement, writing your goals and their necessary steps can make those goals much less daunting and much more doable. That alone helps you feel more confident in moving forward.

Stop Comparing

While it’s good to have aspirations toward self-improvement, constantly comparing yourself to the best of the best in your realm can get discouraging. For example, if you’d like to have a talk radio show or Podcast, you might be inspired by high-profile radio hosts; being inspired by them is fine, but beating yourself up because you are not exactly like they are – complete with millions of listeners – will only discourage you.

Build a Positive Self-Image

It seems that when you are just certain you are going to fail before you try something, you are more likely to fail when you do try it. If you have a negative self-image and think you just can’t achieve anything, it’s likely that you won’t – thus underscoring this false impression about yourself. Stop listening to the negative inner voice and instead tell yourself that you can achieve your goals and, even if you fail, it’s not because you are a bad person or because you didn’t try.

Loving Myself First

Surround yourself with positivity, photos of yourself and uplifting and empowering words – it truly does make a difference.

Get to Know Yourself

When’s the last time you took yourself out? Seriously. This means spending some quiet time thinking or writing in a journal – some quiet time by yourself in which you assess your strengths, weaknesses, and personality. What are your character traits? What quirks and talents do you have? Pretend like you are being interviewed and that the interviewer is trying to get to know you. What questions would they ask?

If no one else has told you this lately, I want you to know that:

you are one awesome diva

What steps have you taken to help encourage a positive self-talk for yourself?

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Bertha wilson

Wednesday 5th of November 2014

Through my years I have learned to stop listening to the negative inner voice and I tell myself that I can do all thing and achieve anything that I set my mind to do. My self-confidence did not come naturally so I learned to encourage myself!!

Rhachelle Nicol'

Tuesday 4th of November 2014

Self-confidence is so important in our personal lives and business. I have noticed that lack of confidence in business has camouflaged itself as procrastination, the need for perfection (which is another reason for procrastination) and excuses.


Tuesday 4th of November 2014

Very very true! I had an employee that was consistently missing deadlines. At first I wrote it off to "slacker mode" but it soon became evident that they didn't know how to complete certain tasks but didn't want to let on that they had missed key parts of their training. Super simple fix and it made a huge impact in their productivity.


Tuesday 4th of November 2014

Love this! I'm pretty self confidant but I have those days where I beat myself up over the most minute things.


Monday 3rd of November 2014

Thank you very much for the inspiration. I am one of the individuals who has to make a concerted effort to build my self-confidence.

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