What is it that you stand for? When your name comes to mind, what do others think of? Is it something positive or negative? Is it what you’d want your legacy to be? Is it what you’d want your children to pass on to their children’s children? If not, what are you doing to change that?
What is the point of going through life without a purpose? What are you doing to shape your destiny? What are you doing to create your legacy? Each generation should be a step ahead (or more) than the previous, what are you doing to make your strides? Are you preparing your children to take over your legacy or are you allowing them to make the same mistakes your grandparents, parents and yourself made?
In order to live a fulfilled life, you must have a purpose. You must have something that makes you get up each morning excited and ready to make a difference somehow someway. Your purpose should not be something that is selfish and just benefits you and yours. Your purpose should touch others and have a domino effect on those that they touch. It should metamorphisize into an even bigger purpose.
The beginning of it all
Those were the words I wrote on Saturday, August 8, 2009 and the beginning of Divas With A Purpose.
I recall it was early on a Saturday morning. I’d been up most of the night with my 17-month-old who was teething and miserable. That date was a week before my 3rd wedding anniversary.
I was absolutely miserable.
I was feeling unfulfilled in just about every area of my life.
I’m sure there were quite a few tears shed that night. Quite a few prayers sent up. And at some point my youngest son, who I affectionately call my “favorite child”, looked up at me – snotty nose, feverish eyes – and my heart melted.
“I may have lost my voice and direction temporarily…”
I did have purpose. I may have lost my voice and direction temporarily but God had just given me an outlet that would open doors I’d never imagined. I did not realize and recognize that the words I’d written would come to fruition and lead to me being a blessing to others, but most importantly a blessing to myself.
Creating a community of women uplifting one another
So what is Divas With A Purpose? It’s a community of women committed to supporting and uplifting one another in our personal and professional lives. We believe that together we achieve so much more. We believe in support. We believe in encouragement. We believe in just being there for one another. I have a local group that meets regularly and I host events throughout the year geared towards self-care, female entrepreneurship (which I call Divapreneurship), SMART goal-setting and work-life balance.
My journey to B.O.L.D.
I’m still on my journey but have encountered some amazing people and experiences along the way. I was recently asked during an interview about what I’d lost along the way and it made me pause. Yes, there are some relationships that are no more. We simply outgrew each other and our purposes in one another’s lives had been fulfilled. Friendships shifted and a few were painful, but when I look at the people in my life who support, uplift and help balance me out – I’m thankful for those shifts and changes.
I recently had the opportunity to collaborate with an amazing group of women to publish “A Woman’s Journey to Self Assurance”. In my chapter I share my transformation from bitterness to boldness. There were days when it was easier and comforting to hold on to the memories that made me angry and sullen. It was easier to blame my circumstances on everyone and everything rather than taking control and stepping up to the plate. And honestly, there are times when those feelings and emotions still occur. This journey to fulfilling my purpose is teaching me more about the Diva who looks back at me in the mirror and I’m thankful for it all.