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Self Esteem and My Tween

Moment of Truth: There are times when I really wish I could keep my babies babies forever. These days self-esteem and my tween are an ongoing issue.  I have no clue what it is like to be a twelve-year-old boy, but I CAN remember what kinds of grief I gave them when I was his age.  Tweens and teens can be pretty ruthless and cutthroat with one another – whether it is malicious or not.

I was recently given the opportunity to review Stinkin’ Thinkin’ Stinks by Bill King. I was excited because I thought it would be something that would come in handy in our family.  From my twelve-year-old all the way down to my two-year-old ~ a book that we could utilize for years to come.  I had serious issues with self-esteem growing up and it was not something that was regularly addressed. It was treated as a “stage” that I would outgrow. I would not say that I outgrew it, but over the years I learned to truly love myself inside and out.

When Stinkin’ Thinkin’ Stinks arrived, my twelve-year-old was instantly intrigued by the cover and title.  He asked if it was for him and if he could begin reading it. OF COURSE! I gave him about a week before saying anything and I really thought it was something that would get buried in his bedroom.  I was pleasantly surprised when he said how much he was enjoying it and had completed many of the exercises.

Stinkin’ Thinkin’ Stinks is an interactive book written to provide kids with real tools for changing negative habits.  Readers will:

  • become aware of negative thought patterns
  • discover ways to eliminate negative thinking
  • learn how to avoid a negative “pack” mentality
  • access the positive in life
  • develop techniques for dealing with negative people and situations
  • embrace positivity as their dominant way of thinking

What ways do you encourage positive thinking in your children?

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Tuesday 14th of January 2014

I hated middle school and puberty and when my daughter got older she did ok. But my boys? Well that's another story. I thought they would be so easy but they more body odor, more body hair, more acne. I wish I had had this book to share with them.

Kalley C

Tuesday 19th of November 2013

I think this is a great book and I'm going to add this to my wish list. I think it's great that your son wanted to read this, and better yet, he was able to finish a lot of the exercise.

Antionette Blake

Monday 18th of November 2013

What a great book and even better that your son wanted to read it!

Joseph Hawkshaw

Monday 18th of November 2013

In today's society bullying is a on going thing and seems to get worse because parents are not guiding their children down the path of a positive future. I see the internet is getting to be a real big problem with teens bullying each other and the parents are not monitoring their activity at all. Teens are afraid to speak up.

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